Swinging Terminology
Swinging is a title that covers many different kinds of sexual activity
It is a lot easier to understand the swinging lifestyle if you are aware of it's terminology
A swinger is a person who has sex with someone other that their regular partner, or single people who have recreational sex with others.
This list includes terms used in the Fetish and BDSM scene as well as in the Gay and Lesbian community.
Here are a selection of the terms with their definitions:
AC/DC
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT
Euphemism for pornographic.
ANAL
Anal intercourse between a man and a woman or 2 men; Greek; Greek Culture.
ARTS
Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&D
Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BAREBACK
Having sex without using a condom
BBW
Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
BEAR
A large male homo sexual, often very hairy.
BI
Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE
Unusual sexual desires
BONDAGE
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or
hold a participating sexual partner. the person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BUKAKKE
A fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, dives naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
BULL
Male who is used by couples to impregnate the female
CAN ACCOMMODATE
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CIM
Cum in Mouth
CIP
Cum in Pussy
CLEAN
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLEANUP
A man or woman licking the cum out of or off a girl, or off of a mans penis after sex.
CLOSED DOOR or CLOSED SWINGING
Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate
relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. the rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
CLOSET SWINGER
A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUGAR
An older woman who dates young men (cubs)
COUPLE
In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CREAMPIE
A man cumming in a woman's pussy.
CUB or CUBBIE
A young male who dates older women (Cougars)
CUCKOLD
A man whose wife (hot wife) dates and has sex with other men, either with or without his knowledge.
CULTURE
Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.
FRENCH CULTURE:
Oral sex
GREEK CULTURE:
Anal sex
ROMAN CULTURE:
Sexual orgies
SWEDISH CULTURE:
Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
CUNNILINGUS
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DILDO
An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic sometimes wood or glass, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR
the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible
for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from
physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION.
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer
phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
DOCILE
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING
Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT
A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
EXHIBITIONIST
A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
FELLATIO
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for sexual activity.
GANG BANG
Where a girl chooses to have sex with several men at the same time.
GAY
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM
Gay Black Male
GENEROUS
Refers to money for sex.
GREEDY GIRL
A woman who enjoys sex with several men at the same time in a gang bang situation.
GROUP ROOM
Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM
Gay White Male
HARD CORE
A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD SWINGING
(see HARD CORE)
HEAD
Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
HEDONIST
Someone who lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY or Lesbian)
HORNY.
Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
HOTWIFE
A wife who has sex with other men then returns home to describe the events to her husband during sex.
HUNG
Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP
Height-weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR SPORTS
Swinging activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL
In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISO
In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEATHER
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather, silk, rubber, latex garments.
LESBIAN
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
Ltr
Long Term Relationship
MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE
The term slave is no longer regarded as appropriate in most BDSM environments, it has too many negative connotations.
Most kinksters now use the term "submissive" as an alternate
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
Most kinksters now use the term "submissive" as an alternate
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOM
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
MENAGE A" TROIS
three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going
emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MILF
Mother I Like to Fuck, used by young men to describe attractive older women, often the mothers of their friends.
MORESOMES
More than three people in a swinging interaction.
MBC
Married Black Couple
MBiC
Married Bisexual Couple
Multiple Donations
Several men ejaculate into or onto another person.
MWC
Married White Couple
NEWCOMERS/Newbies
New people in swinging; First-timers
NONSMOKER
Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
N.S.A.
No Strings attached.
OPEN SWINGING
A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants
socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party
ORGY
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.
PARTY
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY CLOTHES
Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. the latter includes robes, lingerie,
terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available
for erotic courting and play.
PASSIVE
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO
Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY
Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others;
interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
PRO
Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
PUMA
A woman in her early 20's who dates younger men (cubs or cubbies)
RECREATIONAL SWINGER
A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN
Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
RUBBER
Condom means of contraception;
sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
SAFE
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
S.A.E.
Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF
Single Black Female
SBiF
Single Bisexual Female
SBM
Single Black Male
S&M
Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE
A swinger without a partner, single or married.
SOCIAL
A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and
socialize. there is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB
A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. they may also
offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party
attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SOFT SWINGING
The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your
spouse. the first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SPITROAST
A girl giving oral sex to one man and vaginal sex with another at the same time.
SRS
Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
Std or Sti
Sexually transmitted Disease (sexually transmitted Infection). A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these
social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
Str or Str8 or STRAIGHT
Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; or a person who into sex but not BDSM; or A person who does not use drugs.
Sugar Daddy
An older man who treats his younger female companion to everything. (may include meals, clubbing, holidays, cars, homes)
Sugar Mummy, Sugar Momma
A Cougar who treats their cub to everything. (may include meals, clubbing, holidays, cars, homes)
SWAPPING
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWF
Single White Female
SWING MAGAZINE
A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of
general interest to the swinging community
SWINGING
Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women are often involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE
Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM
Single White Male
SUBMISSIVE
(see PASSIVE)
THREESOME
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a" trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and
a continuing relationship.
TICKET
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS
Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRAVEL
(see CAN TRAVEL)
TRIAD
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". this is a common but confusing usage (see trIAD)
TUBAL LIGATION
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just
below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
TWINK
Young, attractive male homosexual
UTOPIAN SWINGER
A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMY
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
VERSATILE
Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATOR
Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile
shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men
and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS
Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR
A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VWE
Very Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
W/E
Well Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.